I got a couple of hate comments on my last post. I'm not going to dwell on this for too long, but some of my tweeps were asking me what the hate comments were regarding. I kinda wish I hadn't been so rash in emotion this morning and had left 'em on here, they would be good for a laugh now that I'm in a happier, more zen, more secure state of mind.
The jist of it was this:
One commenter mentions that D and I should take some time to sort out our problems before having a child. This is something we are currently doing, and what I mention in a couple of posts in the past are that I have doubts which I need to quench before going forward with IUI #1. (and that there are financial issues which also need to get resolved.)
This comment was not the issue.
When I read on my heart did a pitter patter.
I'm not one for confrontations.
And the comment started with the B word.
My temper flared right away. I read on.
It continued to say that the above commenter was right, I am not fit to be a mother (which was not what she said at all), D and I should separate immediately and that I am a pathetic loser because I'm obviously in an abusive relationship and refuse to leave. And that people like me deserve to be shot.
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That's me, sitting on my couch at 7:30am on a Sunday morning with my jaw hanging off it's hinge.
Why would anyone say these things to me???
I read on.
Next comment, also anonymous:
'Oh Yah, I hope that when you get pregnant you have a miscarriage right at the end of your pregnancy.'
I SHIT YOU NOT.
So I deleted them, like the good little pacifist that I am.... and sulked off to vent on twitter. But then I thought, "THIS IS MY BLOG!" and my friends re-in-forced.... "THAT'S NA-VE'S BLOG!" and so I retorted.
To myself.
Because the stupid anonymous commenter is a Mrs. Scaredy-Pants who comments mean things anonymously. And I say "Mrs." because to make a statement like the last comment she left is very distinctly female. Like - she would want said miscarriage to be as painful as it could possibly be by making it so that I carried almost to term before losing my miracle baby. Men can be cruel, but not that viciously cruel.
I wish I knew who the commenter was - I'd send her a vat of testosterone so that she could physically grow a set and actually have the kahunas that it takes to throw those kinds of comments into cyberspace and back them up when the person defends themselves.
After all, insulting someone who can't even defend them self is like Arnold Schwarzenegger beating up a little old lady.
wow! I can't believe anyone ever would be that cruel and ridiculous but as you've heard a lot today, haters mean that you have arrived in the blogging world! I have learned that the internet is one of people's favorite places to act like anonymous, self-righteous douche bags. And yes they are cowards. You're awesome, fuck the haters
ReplyDeletewhat horrible things to say. I think you are great!
ReplyDeleteSeriously? People are freaking unbelievable! My advice is: don't take it personal. There are people out there with no lives who go around just trying to start crap, because they think it's funny.
ReplyDeletePeople can be so incredibly insensitive, I will never know what drives people to make such hateful statements. You are wonderful. You an D will be wonderful parents and that's that. Screw the haters!
ReplyDeleteWHAT. THE. FUCK. I would like to get my hands on whomever made that heinous miscarriage comment and slap them in the effing FACE. NOT EVEN A FUNNY THING TO SAY TO SOMEONE. My jaw literally dropped reading that. I am so sorry someone said such a TERRIBLE thing to you.
ReplyDeleteI can't believe someone would be so self-righteous as to say something as awful as that miscarriage comment. It makes me sick to my stomach. It's disgusting that someone like that feels THEY can pass judgement on others. I'm all for people speaking their mind (and I think they should on blogs, etc. since as a blogger we put the content out there) but to be so hateful and hurtful is just downright disgusting.
ReplyDeleteHee hee...vat of testosterone.
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Holy shit I can't believe someone would bother saying something like that (and an anonymous poster means they were a scaredy pants).
ReplyDeleteEveryone has marital problems at some point in their lives. It doesn't matter how much you love the person, there are always things about them that you won't 100% like. Does this mean that the marriage should end? No! That commenter obviously is either a. not married or b. is living her life in a lie.
And what kind of sick person wishes harm upon an unborn baby?
And p.s. I think you're great.
Nat! I am so sorry. I'm just getting around to seeing this. I wish I would have known sooner. Who ever said that stuff is obviously a moron and doesn't know YOU. We all have our own personal drama, you just have the balls to share it. But that doesn't mean that you're not fit to be a mother. And the miscarriage is just plain fucked up. NO ONE should ever wish that on someone.
ReplyDeleteAgain, I'm so sorry I'm just not finding out about this. Remember we are all here for you and love you! <3
OMG! I agree with Kaitlin, wishing a miscarriage on someone is just plain fucked up. Damn. I'm glad you deleted the comments! Who needs that kind of shit when you have blog friends who think you're AWESOME?? *hugs*
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that I am just now reading this. I have been so wrapped up in my own little emo mood right now. I wish that I could say that I can't believe that someone could post something like that, but bullies and bitches are everywhere-hiding behind anonymity on the web just seems to make them feel better. Some people are just a waste of oxygen.
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